You do not get back your civilian title. You become a veteran. One thing you'll notice is, you may want to "fit in" with them, but you won't, simply because they are not like you.
That is not always a bad thing because while some young folks spent way too much time on self-promotion, you were worried about staying alive. This lady is talking about what she encountered with a group of 16 year olds.
Being a misfit among them, you can get along with them, but when you meet others like you, you discover where you do belong and fit in.
"Maybe misfits have a place, too. Even Santa realizes that maybe - he was wrong."
In the movie Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer none of the main characters felt as if they did not belong anywhere.
Circumstances led them to discover others and they helped each other get through whatever life dealt them.
By the end of the movie, the "normal ones" discovered they were wrong about the outcasts.
It is really amazing to understand that you may feel like a misfit until you notice how well you fit with others just like you. How can you expect folks to see the goodness in you if all you show them is someone to fear? Bumbles bounced back from going over the cliff and so can you if you do not bumbled your future. Find other veterans just like you!